He left me to raise HIS son... I
will say that again. He left me to raise HIS son.
Now yes, I know it is our son and
this child is just as much my son as it is his. BUT I say HIS because it is HIS
responsibility to raise his son to be a man. Not me a woman and NOT another man
but the man who created him. It is his responsibility to teach him how to grow
up from a boy to a man. As single mothers many of us try to ease the blow of
raising a child on our own by constantly telling ourselves if we do more by
over compensating and pushing ourselves we can be both mother and father... but
the reality is we can't!
It is scientific fact that a child
grows up to be a better and more efficient contributor to society if they come
from a home with both parents. Now this is not to say I won't move heaven and
hell to make sure my boy is well rounded but unless his father comes around I
am sure there are certain things I am going to struggle with. That is a fact
that I have no problem acknowledging and accepting. Things like potty training.
Ok. It isn't that bad nor the end of the world, but just like I needed my mom
to teach me about a young girl's/woman's body, he will need his father. And I
highly doubt he will want to discuss wet dreams with me. Now I will try my best
to have open communication with him where he can come to me about anything but
I highly doubt he will. I remember when I got my first menstrual cycle and I
was with my dad. I was sssoooo embarrassed to tell him and couldn't wait to get
home for my mom to walk me through it. It was something about the familiarity
of my own sex that helped and I am sure that is the case for others. Just like
there are life lessons only a mother can teach, there are those only a
father/man can as well.
So in closing, I raise my boy the
best way a woman can. I try not to be overzealous because I know it is not that
I am falling short but rather I am doing the best one person can do while doing
a two person job!
CSR
Guest blogger CSR is an amazing single mother of two boys and a successful independent business owner.
